We came into our marriage with very different ideas about conflict.
Chris operated under a “no news is good news” mentality. If we weren’t disagreeing, then our relationship was good. The inverse, then, meant that if we were disagreeing, the relationship was not good. Worse, he didn’t have a picture of how to engage with disagreement. If “fight or flight” is our animalistic reaction to danger, fighting felt wrong and scary, and flight became his default way of handling it e